Ask Julie: Dating and Relationship Advice
Should I Cancel This Date?
Hi Julie,
Recently I met a fellow and he asked for my number and shortly thereafter we went to dinner. Later he called and asked if I wanted to go to the symphony on the 21st of March, and he wanted to go to the show this week. I said I would have to get back to him about the show since I was driving in the car and had to call a girlfriend to check if we were going to Tahoe as previously planned. I said I would like to go to the symphony.
When I got home that evening I realized I had signed up for “Joseph & the Amazing Technicolor Dream Coat” on the 21st of March; in fact, I had mentioned this to him twice, once at the 1st dinner and also at the 2nd dinner date; and with much excitement since I was looking forward to it. The next morning I called him to tell him that I had been registered for this play, and could not make it to the show this week. He said that he had already purchased the tickets for the symphony, so I responded that I would try to cancel the play, which I did.
I woke up the next morning with the feeling that I was being manipulated. I don’t know if the 21st date was just a coincidence, or was intentional. I don’t want to be a poop and cancel if the gentleman had really purchased the tickets already, however, I have this strong feeling of being manipulated. I won’t date this man after the symphony even if I do attend with him.
Please share your opinion whether I should cancel the date or not.
Thanks,
Sharon
Dear Sharon,
First rule in dating- be true to yourself and follow your instincts, and act on them. It’s difficult for me to tell you to cancel on this fellow at this time. However, I urge you in the future to remain true to yourself. You already had tickets to something you were more excited about- I’m very curious why you would have cancelled your plans in the first place. Now, you’ve got yourself in a sticky wicket. In the future, do remember nobody manipulates us without our permission.
Sincerely,
Julie
Julie Paiva is the Founder & CEO of Table for Six Total Adventures™; The premier northern California singles dining and matchmaking social club. Julie is a recognized dating/relationship expert and Image Consultant, and is available for individualized coaching. For appointments call 415-782-0680. Visit the Table for Six Total Adventures™ website at: http://www.tableforsix.com/
Hi Julie,
Recently I met a fellow and he asked for my number and shortly thereafter we went to dinner. Later he called and asked if I wanted to go to the symphony on the 21st of March, and he wanted to go to the show this week. I said I would have to get back to him about the show since I was driving in the car and had to call a girlfriend to check if we were going to Tahoe as previously planned. I said I would like to go to the symphony.
When I got home that evening I realized I had signed up for “Joseph & the Amazing Technicolor Dream Coat” on the 21st of March; in fact, I had mentioned this to him twice, once at the 1st dinner and also at the 2nd dinner date; and with much excitement since I was looking forward to it. The next morning I called him to tell him that I had been registered for this play, and could not make it to the show this week. He said that he had already purchased the tickets for the symphony, so I responded that I would try to cancel the play, which I did.
I woke up the next morning with the feeling that I was being manipulated. I don’t know if the 21st date was just a coincidence, or was intentional. I don’t want to be a poop and cancel if the gentleman had really purchased the tickets already, however, I have this strong feeling of being manipulated. I won’t date this man after the symphony even if I do attend with him.
Please share your opinion whether I should cancel the date or not.
Thanks,
Sharon
Dear Sharon,
First rule in dating- be true to yourself and follow your instincts, and act on them. It’s difficult for me to tell you to cancel on this fellow at this time. However, I urge you in the future to remain true to yourself. You already had tickets to something you were more excited about- I’m very curious why you would have cancelled your plans in the first place. Now, you’ve got yourself in a sticky wicket. In the future, do remember nobody manipulates us without our permission.
Sincerely,
Julie
Julie Paiva is the Founder & CEO of Table for Six Total Adventures™; The premier northern California singles dining and matchmaking social club. Julie is a recognized dating/relationship expert and Image Consultant, and is available for individualized coaching. For appointments call 415-782-0680. Visit the Table for Six Total Adventures™ website at: http://www.tableforsix.com/
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