Ask Julie: Dating and Relationship Advice
Dear Julie,
I met someone who I thought was interesting over the weekend. I thought we made some connection and before she left, I asked her for her phone number and without hesitation she gave it to me. Needless to say, I called her and left a message asking if she would be interested in “hooking-up” again for dinner and a movie. It’s been a week and I haven’t heard a peep from her. Now, I’m beginning to question whether me saying “hooking-up” could mean something other that what I intended it for and thus sending the wrong message. I have learned from a female co-worker that asking a woman to dinner on a first date will scare them away. I’m curious if there’s any truth to that. I like to think that she was not interested in me but I fear that it’s all of the above. Obviously, I have no clue and I’m still reading the intro pages to “Men are from Mars…” Please sign me up for your next therapy session on “Making That Call.”
Sincerely yours,
Rick
Dear Rick,
It’s a tough time to be a guy, isn’t it? Everything is so PC today. However, given that, I don’t really believe that asking a woman out for a dinner on a first date is going to scare them away; one might say that if you suggested a cup of coffee etc…you would be considered cheap! So, it’s not that. As for using the words “hooking up,” I also doubt that that was a problem; still I would recommend “getting together” in the future. It is always difficult in this crazy single’s world we live in to really know why a woman (or man for that matter) doesn’t call back. I would give it one more chance. Good luck and let me know what happened!
Sincerely,
Julie
Julie Paiva is the Founder & CEO of Table for Six Total Adventures™; The premier northern California singles dining and matchmaking social club. Julie is a recognized dating/relationship expert and Image Consultant, and is available for individualized coaching. For appointments call 415-782-0680.
Visit the Table for Six Total Adventures™ website at: www.tableforsix.com
I met someone who I thought was interesting over the weekend. I thought we made some connection and before she left, I asked her for her phone number and without hesitation she gave it to me. Needless to say, I called her and left a message asking if she would be interested in “hooking-up” again for dinner and a movie. It’s been a week and I haven’t heard a peep from her. Now, I’m beginning to question whether me saying “hooking-up” could mean something other that what I intended it for and thus sending the wrong message. I have learned from a female co-worker that asking a woman to dinner on a first date will scare them away. I’m curious if there’s any truth to that. I like to think that she was not interested in me but I fear that it’s all of the above. Obviously, I have no clue and I’m still reading the intro pages to “Men are from Mars…” Please sign me up for your next therapy session on “Making That Call.”
Sincerely yours,
Rick
Dear Rick,
It’s a tough time to be a guy, isn’t it? Everything is so PC today. However, given that, I don’t really believe that asking a woman out for a dinner on a first date is going to scare them away; one might say that if you suggested a cup of coffee etc…you would be considered cheap! So, it’s not that. As for using the words “hooking up,” I also doubt that that was a problem; still I would recommend “getting together” in the future. It is always difficult in this crazy single’s world we live in to really know why a woman (or man for that matter) doesn’t call back. I would give it one more chance. Good luck and let me know what happened!
Sincerely,
Julie
Julie Paiva is the Founder & CEO of Table for Six Total Adventures™; The premier northern California singles dining and matchmaking social club. Julie is a recognized dating/relationship expert and Image Consultant, and is available for individualized coaching. For appointments call 415-782-0680.
Visit the Table for Six Total Adventures™ website at: www.tableforsix.com
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